DAY FORTY THREE~ MEETING FORTY THREE
ACCEPTANCE
Perfect topic for me today, since the in-laws came visiting last night! I thought my relationship with my mother-in-law would be different than all the horror stories I had heard from other women about their mother-in-laws. I think I have come to accept (finally) that she is who/what she is and I cannot change that or her. The only thing I can do is change me and last night I acted in a different manner than I have any other time with her.
I invited them to come visit and see the kids for awhile. Trey was all excited all day, but as soon as they got here, he turned into a little devil. I kept my cool, but my in-laws are really good at making me feel inadequate without saying a word. Or they can say something that really sounds nice on the outside, but I allow it to make me feel badly from the innuendoes. I have come to the conclusion that much of the problem is our generation gap (they are old enough to be my grandparents) and much of it is just because they are grandparents and that's the way grandparents work much of the time.
I don't agree with a lot of the things she allowed her children to do as they were growing up and maybe even though I don't say anything out loud, she feels my disapproval the same way that I feel hers. But, in all this, I have really come to an acceptance of her. I don't see them that often because I distance myself for my own peace of mind. The few times that I do see them, I think I can be the person that God wants me to be and accept them for who they are and just enjoy their company.
Until tomorrow ~
I'm Kim
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