A Wellspring of Hope
Newsletter of The Recovery Group
April/May 2002
Volume 4, Issue 4/5
ser*en*dip*i*ty ~ (noun) First appeared 1754:
the faculty or phenomenon of finding
valuable or agreeable things not sought for.
FEATURED ARTICLES From Our Editor
Founders Corner
Current Service Opportunities
From the Loops: Spotlight of the Month
Recovery Meditations
Letters to the Editor
Confronting the Disease
Danny's Corner
From the Recovery Group Members
From the Literature
The Recovery Group IRC Meeting Schedule
Overeaters Anonymous Contacts
Recovery Group Contacts
Serenity Prayer
~ FROM OUR EDITOR ~
Dear friends in recovery,
Welcome to the combined April/May edition of Serendipity! I apologize to the group for not getting out an April newsletter, and for the lateness of this May newsletter. Please know that we are back on track and will have regular editions of Serendipity beginning June 1!
This is the first issue of Serendipity that involves a central theme -- this month it is on-line recovery. A number of our members have shared about their recovery and their gratitude for on-line recovery here at The Recovery Group. I for one bless Mari and her vision and hard work to create this place of recovery in cyberspace. I know you too will find inspiration, experience, strength and hope in their shares.
And, speaking of the June newsletter, the topic will be tools of recovery. I hope a number of you will share about your favorite or most helpful tool -- meetings, telephone, writing, service, literature, anonymity, sponsors (what have I missed?) ......... Since June 1 is coming quickly, I hope all of you who are reading this will provide SERVICE to the newsletter by WRITING about your favorite tool, and sharing it with other compulsive eaters world-wide. To those who do, I know you will find that you receive even more than you give!
If you have any suggestions of topics you would like to see addressed in future months of Serendipity, please let me know.
All submissions to Serendipity should be sent to: SerendipityNewsletter@yahoogroups.com.
Peace, my friends.
Love in recovery,
Suzanne, Editor
SERENDIPITY
SERENDIPITY SUBSCRIPTIONS
~ FOUNDERS CORNER ~
Over a year ago when I first knew there was going to be a new edition of the Big Book, I thought of the first time I took the BB seriously. I had lived my life as a compulsive eater but somehow never once considered myself an addict. I didn't do drugs nor drink alcohol ~ how on earth could anything an alcoholic say apply to me? As a result of this aversion to even reading the BB, much less buying one, I ambled through life and my disease until I was sick at heart and at rock bottom.
One hot summer night, in a state of depression and having given up, I found myself at a new computer barely knowing how to turn it on. I did know enough to get to the Internet and someone had e-mailed me a link. I clicked it, waited ... and soon found myself in a room with a man named Comity. The room was the Recovery Zone and the man's real name was Richard. I learned that he sat there for an hour every Thursday night whether anyone dropped by or not. The two of us talked alone. By the time I left, he had introduced me to the Twelve Steps, the Big Book and given me the name of an angel who would later become my first sponsor.
A week later, there was a copy of the BB at my door ~ this sweet man had sent it to me and I devoured it. I substituted the word food for alcohol, and the words compulsive eater for alcoholic, and I was home. I laughed and cried all the way through it, and there is not a day that goes by that I don't thank those 100 men and women who told their stories and gave to the world one of its most precious gifts.
But there's more. We who have pioneered 12-Step online support have been frustrated over the years that our mother organizations have not embraced us. We have gone through group rejection despite working hard to make online recovery work. Men and women all over the world have found the Twelve Steps through our loops and meetings, and not only does it work, it works extraordinarily well. Autonomously or as an adjunct to face-to-face meetings, we bring to the world everything necessary for a complete recovery program based on the teachings of the Big Book.
So now the remarkable new version is here, and what a thrill it was to read for the first time a breakthrough in some of the toughest mindsets on this planet. The Foreward of Version Four says:
"Taking advantage of technological advances, for example, A.A. members with computers can participate in meetings online, sharing with fellow alcoholics across the country or around the world. Fundamentally, though, the difference between an electronic meeting and the home group around the corner is only one of format. In any meeting, anywhere, A.A.'s share experience, strength and hope with each other, in order to stay sober and help other alcoholics. Modem-to-modem or face-to-face, A.A.'s speak the language of the heart in all its power and simplicity." (AABB, page xxiv)
Can you believe this? The Big Book saying that fundamentally the only difference between an electronic meeting and a f2f one is format. Compulsive eaters and alcoholics speak the same language. Whether it's sitting in a little room with a coffee pot in back in rural America, or in one of the other 43 countries of the world or just in our pajamas at 4:00 in the morning when we can't sleep ... when we reach out to another compulsive eater it doesn't matter how the message gets here ... only that it does.
In the deepest part of the soul of a compulsive eater ...
is the realization that recovery begins when we find one another.
When we pick up a copy of the Big Book, we find one another.
When we attend a f2f or an online meeting, we find one another.
When we share in a discussion loop, we find one another.
Are you listening OA WSO?
Modem-to-Modem.
Face-to-Face.
The language of the Big Book ... the language of the Twelve Steps.
The beautiful, exquisite, extraordinary language of the heart.
Welcome Home, Version Four.
@-}-}-}------
Love in recovery,
Mari
~ CURRENT SERVICE OPPORTUNITIES ~Hello, Friends in Recovery ~
Would you like to share your recovery through service to others? Please review the following service needs, and say "YES!" today!
- NEEDED: LOOP CO-COORDINATORS
The following loops are in need of a co-coordinator to work with the current coordinator in partnership as they support the members of the loop in living out their recovery:
To offer your service or for more information ~
- NEWCOMERS
- OA FRIENDS
- SPONSORS AND RECOVERY
- WTS
Please contact TRGAdm@TheRecoveryGroup.org
- NEEDED: MEETING LEADERS
ThursdaysAny person wanting to lead meetings please contact Vicki( (vickiw@gci.net) for information on how to get started.
- 10:30 AM ~ Recovery Meditations ~ Leader Needed
- 9:30 PM ~ OATopic ~ Leader needed
Meeting Leader job description and directions can be found at this link: http://recovery.hiwaay.net/training/mtgformat.html/
- NEEDED: SPONSORS
To join our list on online sponsors - and to share your recovery through sponsoring - please contact: Maureen ~ sarkar@cableonda.net
- NEEDED: TELEPHONE ANGELS To join our list of telephone angels - and share your recovery with others through this service - please contact: Jessica ~ jlevine19@nyc.rr.com
- NEEDED : LOOP COORDINATORS Coordinators Needed for the following Special Interest Loops:
To offer your service or for more information ~ Please contact TRGAdm@TheRecoveryGroup.org
- AA&RECOVERY
- COKIDS
- DISABILITIES AND RECOVERY
- GERMAN AND RECOVERY
- ISOLATION AND HOMEBOUND
- KIDS AND RECOVERY
- RECOVERY KITCHEN
For information about the Coordinator job description, please review the following: http://recovery.hiwaay.net/training/loopcoordinator.html
- NEEDED: WEB SERVANT
TRG is in need of additional Web Servants to help support our site and keep it currrent. Please contact TRG Administrative Team if you are able to provide this important service: TRGAdm@TheRecoveryGroup.org
To offer your service or for more information ~ please contact TRGAdm@TheRecoveryGroup.org
The Recovery Group Administrators ~
TRGAdm@TheRecoveryGroup.org
~ LOOP SPOTLIGHT ~
~ Grief and Recovery ~Welcome to the Grief and Recovery support group for compulsive eaters who are experiencing a loss which is affecting their recovery. The Grief and Recovery loop is part of the Recovery Group community, a 12-Step Fellowship offering discussion groups, studies and online meetings for compulsive eaters. Our only requirement is the desire to quit eating compulsively. If you have experienced a loss in your life and need a fellowship with other COEs who understand, please join us. For further information, please write to: TRGAdm@TheRecoveryGroup.org or visit our website located at: http://www.TheRecoveryGroup.org
~ RECOVERY MEDITATIONS ~
~ One day at a Time ~We are badly in need of original meditations for Recovery Meditations. The Recovery Group has thousands of members around the world, and yet we do not yet have enough meditations to complete our first 365 days. PLEASE BECOME A PART OF THIS WONDERFUL PROJECT! If you enjoy the daily meditations sent to the loops each day, get into the act!! Send your original meditation, in the format of those sent to the loops, to RecoveryMeditations@lists.TheRecoveryGroup.org.
If every member of TRG submits just one meditation, and there is no reason this cannot happen, we will have enough to complete our work in progress and move on to a second volume of love, experience, strength and hope ........
PLEASE CONTRIBUTE TODAY!
NOTE: If you want to subscribe to receive an e-mail copy of the daily meditation, please send a blank e-mail to: RecoveryMeditationsList-subscribe-request@lists.therecoverygroup.org
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~ LETTERS TO THE EDITOR ~
Dear Serendipity,
Thanks for your caring newsletter. I feel better already. I was going to go get an ice cream to fix my pain. I am depressed. I don't want to eat. I am going to my first OA meeting this week. Thanks to God, I got your newsletter just in time.
God bless, Polly
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~ CONFRONTING THE DISEASE ~
OA and HP Are the Answers
I left OA because I felt I could find recovery elsewhere. In OA, I experienced some recovery and relief from compulsive eating. I was grateful for the people who shared their strength, hope and experience. Still, I became convinced I could find recovery elsewhere. Being the only person at the last meeting I attended made it easier to leave.
For about two years, I didn’t work my OA program, but my Higher Power guided me toward spiritual growth. I no longer felt compelled to diet, and it was a relief to say that to well-meaning friends and relatives when they related the latest diet, herbal remedy or exercise regimen. Before leaving OA, I renewed my subscription to Lifeline for three years, and browsing through the magazine kept me in touch with OA.
Two things brought me back to OA. I reached my highest weight ever, and I realized when reading through my old journals that the problems I currently faced were the same problems I had faced for years. I decided I didn’t want to be dealing with these problems in 20 years.
My grandmother experienced severe obesity much of her life. Although she died in her 80s, her obesity severely reduced the quality of her later years. To leave home, she needed two people to help her walk to and climb in and out of the car. I didn’t want this to happen to me.
My program is different now because I have accepted that my unaided will cannot do it alone, but my Higher Power can. I believe OA is where the God of my understanding intends for me to find relief and recovery. I am experiencing my longest abstinence. Although I haven’t found a meeting, I have two wonderful new ways to share with other compulsive overeaters who do not have meetings in their areas: OA’s Service by Mail list and OASIS, the monthly meeting in print. These OA members are a gift from my Higher Power. For the first time I have a sponsor, and her letters are full of strength and warmth. At last I understand the value of sponsorship.
If I begin to believe again that I can do this on my own, by my unaided will, I will recognize that I am heading out the OA door again. I need my Higher Power’s strength and guidance; I need your presence and support. I must remember that only by staying consciously connected will I experience the freedom, serenity and joy I deserve.
— Anonymous, Kingston, Jamaica, West Indies, reprinted from Lifeline, Volume 30 No. 3, March 2002

Dear God,
Thank you so much for the gift of this wonderful way of life. I am surrounded by
caring friends and family all ready, willing and able to point my nose in the
right direction, and then stand back to allow me to do the next right thing or not.
I have not eaten compulsively for the last twelve hours and nine minutes, but who's
counting. I'm once again amazed at how quickly abstinence is restored when my surrender
is complete and I stop trying to run the show of life, thanks.
There is not one thing in my life I am able to control except the thoughts that come
to me. They may be dismissed as improper, filed away for further consideration, or
acted on as righteous. As long as I do as You would have me do, all is well. Now
this takes some fun out of my day, however sleep is so much more peaceful, thanks.
This morning a friend or two will pick me up and ferry me to and from our Saturday
step meeting, then to lunch and home. We will be at my niece's house this afternoon
for a family gathering, and our mutual problem discussed. You be my mouth at this one,
allowing me to be as nice as is possible.
Meanwhile, give me the wisdom to know and power to do Your will today. Watch over my
family, friends, fellow loopies, those who still seek the easier, softer way, and the
folks I don't like.
AND WHY NOT......Danny

I am so thankful that I have found the program "online." I have been abstinent for seventeen days - thanks to God and all of the people who have supported me through this computer. There have been many many people whose support I have felt. I know that I am not alone. I want to thank everyone who has reached out to me. I feel blessed.
Thank you,
I first joined oafriends and the wts step study group. I was fairly new to the
internet and someone gave me my computer and told me of the oafriends loop.
I was (and still sometimes am) an isolater and these loops helped me to get out of
isolation. They have also helped me in that I sponsor several people online and I
am grateful for that because I don't have any f2f sponsees at this time.
I began to feel as if I belonged again with this on-line recovery - I didn't feel
like such an outcast. One of the loops I am on that is spiritually based has
helped me grow in many ways. Since joining that loop I have become much closer
to God and have been letting go better because of it.
I also speak to some online members on the phone. I don't as yet get to too many
meetings so these loops help me in the fact they are like meetings - sometimes even
better I think.
Another loop called exercise and recovery has helped me a great deal. I have
started walking and that is a miracle for sure!!! When I don't want to walk I
get support from the loop cheering me on - it's great!
I thank God for each and every one of you and for each loop that I am on.
I also thank God for this computer.
Love, Kathy-0
I came on line for recovery several year ago. First through a local group, which
merged with a larger group and then with The Recovery Group. I am thankful for
all who work so hard to keep this group alive and well.
It is through this group that I found my abstinence. I have played with the tools,
did the three step waltz and wondered why I could not get abstinent and stay abstinent
for more than two or three days at a time. I went to meetings, had a sponsor,
gave service, read literature, etc. I worked and worked and wondered why God was against me.
On line I came into contact with many people who had the same complaint. We were the
first to forgive each other for the "slips" we had. We gave each other permission to
keep doing what we were doing and you know what? We were not making any changes in our lives.
Somewhere along the line someone shared about working the steps as a way to get abstinent
and stay abstinent. At Recovery we have Working The Steps. Four times each year a leader
guides us as we climb the steps. I thought I would give it a try. It was on line and
if I didn't like it I could drop out and who would know?
Our leader prodded and pulled and kept after us as we continued to work a step a week.
After week six or seven steps I noticed a big change in me. I was able to stay abstinent
for more than a few days at a time. And I was beginning to lose more weight. I was
beginning to do what the program told me to do. This is a 12 Step Program. I
needed to take the 12 steps to work the program. The tools were a great help.
Meetings kept me in close contact with other compulsive overeaters, but it was
here in Recovery that I became abstinent.
I belong to two loops here in Recovery. I hear more recovery in one day on line
than in the many meetings I attend. I have many friends here, people who suffer
the same illness I have. Together we can climb the 12 steps to recovery. Their
wisdom, recovery and laughter have pulled me out of myself and opened my eyes to
the wide world of Recovery.
Thank you for the opportunity to express my thankfulness for this great recovery venue.
Yours in ESH ~ JO
When I first started in OA several years ago, my life was unmanageable, so the first
face to face meeting I attended, I knew I had been led to the right place.
However, just a few months after that first meeting, my whole world changed.
My husband and I moved to the States from Canada: I left my home, job and career,
my family and friends, and to top it all off, when we 'landed' here, I found myself
being plagued by the isolation that comes not only from my disease, but also from
being a recovering agoraphobic who now found it difficult to leave the house again.
That's when HP led me to this Recovery Group. I couldn't go to face to face meetings
but, boy, here was this whole online site where I could attend meetings, get support,
acceptance and understanding -- and all without going out of the house. It was truly blessing!
At first, I tentatively joined the Newcomers Loop because that's exactly what I was.
>From there, I was encouraged to attend online meetings, and then as I learned more
about program, I ventured into the Isolation and Newcomers Loop -- where I still
actively participate as much as I can. It is also through the loops that I found
my sponsor -- who although he lives on the other side of the country -- I
still can keep in touch with him regularly. Every day I look forward to the
Daily Meditations, and monthly to Serendipity -- both of which, much like OA's
Lifeline magazine, seem to always know what's going on in my life that very day
and month! I cannot thank Mari and all the Trusted Servants and loopie friends
enough for being there when I needed them -- indeed STILL need them -- because
even though I can now venture out of the house; and even though I've been
abstinent for over a year (and have lost 80 or more pounds), I still find that
I turn regularly to my online supporters (who I call my own personal cheerleaders!
LOL!) -- and who I can reach anytime of the day just by sitting at my desk and
writing, sharing and reading!
Thank you all for being there -- and thanks for letting me share.
Luv, Lorraine
On a personal basis, as an American, living in a foreign country, the contact
I have with other O.A.ers in English is very important to me. As we all know,
O.A. is worldwide, so we do have O.A. meetings here, and I also have contact
with my O.A. friends here. But none of them speak my native language, and the
meetings are, of course, all in the language of this country. It doesn’t matter,
of course, which country you’re in, or in which language an O.A. meeting is
conducted…..O.A. is always O.A.
I have no problem with the language here, as I have lived here thirty years and
am bi-lingual. In fact, my introduction to O.A. – my first knowledge of the Fellowship,
my first O.A. meeting – took place with me as the simultaneous translator for an
English-speaking Trustee who was visiting here, and I bless the day I agreed to do
that job as it changed the course of my entire life. But there are moments, as
anyone living abroad from his native land can testify, when you just need to
“hear” and “speak” your own native tongue. The Recovery Group gives me that possibility.
Shortly after I entered the world of “computersville” last year, a friend from my
American home-base O.A. group with whom I correspond sent me a letter telling me
how excited she was about finding meetings on line and about the Newcomers
recovery group. She sent me the general address for the recovery groups and
there I discovered an e-mail group for correspondence:
NewcomersAndRecovery@yahoogroups.com
For me, being part of this e-mail group is like having a meeting at my disposal
24 hours a day. It is not just “journaling” – which is in itself an important
part of recovery – but an open sharing on a daily basis, enabling me to express
myself without having to translate in my mind what I’m saying. It allows me the
spontaneity of my own language and the feeling of “living” – at least for the
moments when I’m on line – in my own culture. Even more important, it allows
me to “hear” others sharing in the “sound” of my native tongue while they
“speak” of things which are familiar to my own background.
Being a part of The Recovery Group is also important to me as it gives each of us
the opportunity to encourage others, and, when necessary, receive the encouragement
from others in a sort of on-going reciprocal Twelfth Step Within type of structure.
You don’t have to wait for your weekly meeting when you need to share.
You don’t have to look for the chance to help others as it’s always there on
your screen any time of day or night. Unlike telephone calls, which are often
limited to certain time structures in consideration for others, Recovery ON-LINE
is there at our fingertips 24 hours a day – instant contact ready for all of us
whenever we need to share. Thank you for letting me share this with you today.
Love, MARJEE (O.A., Palermo, Italy)
My name is Mickie. I have been a member of OA for two years. I live too far
to go to a face to face meeting, so the online meetings are the most center to
my socially active life in recovery. I get to meet people who are just like
myself with common problems and learn how they helped themselves solve those
problems. I have been abstinent and in relapse and somewhere in
between. TRG online has kept me going, it can be treated just like any other
meeting. TRG online takes out the isolation of suffering alone. And one thing
about the online meeting, you can talk and share as much as you need.
May your journey be a safe one.
Mickie

~ FROM THE LITERATURE ~

We invite all of you to attend our online meetings. We have many
dedicated meeting leaders and we have several meetings each day. The
simplest way to enter the #Recovery Room is to go to:
http://www.starchat.net/recovery.
Be patient! It takes several minutes for the page to download because of
the chat software (called an applet). If a screen comes up asking you if
you want to accept the Java Link, click YES. (Not all computers get this
message.)
There are other ways to enter the room depending on your
server....so go to this page and you will see the instructions:
http://www.therecoverygroup.org/support/meetings.html
Here is a copy of our latest Meeting Schedule:
| RECOVERY GROUP MEETINGS All Meetings US Eastern Time All IRC meetings on Starchat Channel All IRC meetings in #Recovery with the exception of the Spanish meetings which are held in #SpanishRecovery and Christian meetings held in #Christian&Recovery |
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| MONDAY: | ||
| 7:00 AM | IRC | OA Topic |
| 10:30 AM | IRC | Recovery Meditations |
| 2:30 PM | IRC | Big Book Study |
| 7:00 PM | IRC | OA Topic |
| 9:30 PM | IRC | OA Topic |
| 11:00 PM | IRC | OA Topic |
| TUESDAY: | ||
| 7:00 AM | IRC | OA Topic |
| 10:30 AM | IRC | Recovery Meditations |
| 2:30 PM | IRC | Humbly Asking God to Remove Our Character Defects |
| 7:00 PM | IRC | Step Meeting |
| 9:30 PM | IRC | OA Topic |
| 11:00 PM | IRC | OA Topic |
| WEDNESDAY: | ||
| 7:00 AM | IRC | OA Topic |
| 10:30 AM | IRC | Recovery Meditations |
| 2:30 PM | IRC | OA Topic |
| 7:00 PM | IRC | OA Topic |
| 9:30 PM | IRC | OA Topic |
| 11:00 PM | IRC | OA Topic |
| THURSDAY: | ||
| 7:00 AM | IRC | OA Topic |
| 10:30 AM | IRC | Recovery Meditations |
| 2:30 PM | IRC | OA Topic |
| 7:00 PM | IRC | OA Topic |
| 9:30 PM | IRC | Big Book |
| 11:00 PM | IRC | OA Topic |
| FRIDAY: | ||
| 7:00 AM | IRC | OA Topic |
| 10:30 AM | IRC | Recovery Meditations |
| 2:30 PM | IRC | OA Topic |
| 7:00 PM | IRC | Step Meeting |
| 9:30 PM | IRC | OA Topic |
| 11:00 PM | IRC | Newcomers |
| SATURDAY: | ||
| 7:00 AM | IRC | OA Topic |
| 10:30 AM | IRC | Recovery Meditations |
| 2:30 PM | IRC | OA Topic |
| 7:00 PM | IRC | OA Topic |
| 9:30 PM | IRC | OA Topic |
| 11:00 PM | IRC | OA Topic |
| SUNDAY: | ||
| 7:00 AM | IRC | OA Topic |
| 10:30 AM | IRC | Recovery Meditations |
| 2:30 PM | IRC | OA Topic |
| 3:30 PM | IRC | #ItalianRecovery |
| 7:00 PM | IRC | OA Topic |
| 9:30 PM | IRC | OA Topic |
| 11:00 PM | IRC | OA Topic |
SPECIAL INTEREST MEETING SCHEDULE:
Christian Recovery Meetings are held in #Christian&Recovery on IRC Starchat
Monday ~ 9:30 am ~ Dottie
Tuesday ~ 11:30 am ~ Cindy
Thursday ~ 4:00 pm ~ Dottie
Friday ~ 9:30 am ~ Jeanette
For More Meeting Information go to this web-site:
http://recovery.hiwaay.net/support/meetings.html
To volunteer as a meeting leader or substitute leader, please contact us at
RecoveryMeetings@yahoo.com
Overeaters Anonymous
Telephone 505-891-2664
Grant us the SERENITY to accept the things we cannot change;
What we could never do alone ~
One day at a time, ~ Disclaimer
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"I put my hand in yours ...
and together we can do what we could never do alone."
~ Rozanne, OA CoFounder ~
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Is the realization that recovery begins when we find one another."
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The COURAGE to change the things we can;
And the WISDOM to know the difference.
We can do together.
One step at a time.


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OVEREATERS ANONYMOUS
The Recovery Group and our newsletter has as its mission and purpose
that of carrying the message of recovery to those who suffer from the
disease of compulsive eating. We are an anonymous organization and
follow the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions of Overeaters Anonymous;
however, we are not affiliated with that group. Your articles,
announcements and information are welcome. All opinions in this
newsletter represent only the opinions of the writers and not
necessarily that of The Recovery Group or OA, Inc.