1. If we are to experience permanent recovery from compulsive eating, what do we need to do?

2. The first nine steps of our program gave us a new beginning, laid patterns for us to follow in the future. What does Step Ten call for?

3. Tell us what the word perseverance means and how it is associated with our recovery and this step?

4. In the AA 12 & 12, it talks of an emotional hangover. The direct results of yesterday's and sometimes today's excess of negative emotions. List some of these negative emotions and explain how they affect your recovery.

5. One last question for this week, if we have these negative emotions when are we to take care of them and why?
 
 

Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

The Principle Behind Step 10 Is Perseverance.

The Tenth Step Prayer:

I pray I may continue: To grow in understanding and effectiveness; to take daily spot check inventories of myself; to correct mistakes when I make them; to take responsibility for my actions; to be ever aware of my negative and self-defeating attitudes and behaviors; to keep my willfulness in check; to always remember I need Your help; to keep love and tolerance of others as my code; and to continue in daily prayer how I can best serve You, my Higher Power.

We are human. We make mistakes. Step 10 clearly tells us what to do when we are wrong: admit it. This keeps us honest. When we admit the truth about ourselves things come into focus. At the end of each day we ask ourselves, "How did my day go?" As we think about our day, we bring order to our life. When we defend ourselves or blame others, it is called denial. Denial is bad for 2 reasons. First it keeps us from learning from our mistakes, so we keep making them. Second, we don't listen to others, so we close off ourselves and become lonely.
 
 

1. What is the purpose of Step 10?

2. For years we tried going it alone. I have learned through working these steps what healing and help there is in a loving connection with our Higher Power and others who shared our lives. How do we continue to strengthen these connections?

3. Ways to take personal Inventory. A. Spot check. B. Writing out our 10th step inventory. C. A daily reviewing our emotions and behavior of the past 24 hours. What distinguished one from another?
 
 

The Principle Behind Step Ten is Perseverance.

The Tenth Step Prayer:

I pray I may continue: To grow in understanding and effectiveness; to take daily spot check inventories of my self; to correct mistakes when I make them; to take responsibility for my actions; to be ever aware of my negative and self-defeating attitudes and behaviors; to keep my willfulness in check; to always remember I need Your help; to keep love and tolerance of others as my code; And to continue in daily prayer how I can best serve You, My Higher Power.

Hello, my name is Audrey and I am a recovering compulsive overeater. I am your leader this month of October for Step 10.

Anger, resentment, jealousy, envy, as Bill W. states in the Big Book, "are dubious luxuries of normal men." For me, a compulsive overeater, they are poison. With defects unattended, the insanity of compulsive overeating returns and that is death, spiritually and emotionally, if not physically.
 
 

When we were wrong promptly admitted it.

1. By promptly admitting our wrongs, what will this do to our relationships with others?

2. If we don't admit our wrongs promptly what will happen to us?
 
 

The Principle behind Step Ten is Perseverance.

The Tenth Step Prayer:

I pray I may continue: To grow in understanding and effectiveness; to take daily spot check inventories of my self; to correct mistakes when I make them; to take responsibility for my actions; to be ever aware of my negative and self-defeating attitudes and behaviors; to keep my willfulness in check; to always remember I need Your help; to keep love and tolerance of others as my code; and to continue in daily prayer how I can best serve You, My Higher Power.

Hello, my name is Audrey and I am a COE and your Step 10 leader for the month of October.

It is easy to let up on the spiritual program of action and rest on our laurels. We are headed for trouble if we do. Food is a subtle foe. We are not cured of compulsive overeating. What we have is a daily reprieve contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual condition. Everyday is a day when we must carry the vision of God's will into all of our activities.

"How can I best serve Thee - Thy will (not mine) be done," page 85, Big Book.

Assignment for this week:
 
 

1. In taking a daily inventory of what are we to become increasingly aware?

2. What actions can we take to become aware of shortcomings through the inventory process?

3. Have you noticed as you did a Tenth Step Inventory that you have uncovered some aspects of your past which may need professional help?

4. The new attitudes of honesty about our problems and surrender to a Power greater than ourselves has become a part of us. What are some actions that you take daily that have given you a sane and satisfying way of life?

5. We have been forced to adapt to this new way of coping with life in order to recover from compulsive eating. Can you now say you are grateful for the program? If so, explain.
 
 

The Principle behind Step Ten is Perseverance.

The Tenth Step Prayer:

I pray I may continue: To grow in understanding and effectiveness; to take daily spot check inventories of my self; to correct mistakes when I make them; to take responsibility for my actions; to be ever aware of my negative and self-defeating attitudes and behaviors; to keep my willfulness in check; to always remember I need Your help; to keep love and tolerance of others as my code; and to continue in daily prayer how I can best serve You, My Higher Power.

Hello, my name is Audrey and I am a COE and your leader for Step 10 during October. This is the last week and I have enclosed something that a dear friend sent me several months ago. It has made me look at the different things that have happened in my daily life. And how I have reacted to them. I hope you print this out and save it. To be used as needed. I have learned a lot in this leading of step 10. You may answer the questions and send them back to loop or just use this when you need too.

Date: / /

Selfishness, self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles. Driven by a hundred-forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. Sometimes they hurt us, seemingly without provocation, but we invariably find that at some time in the past we have made decisions based on self which later placed us in a position to be hurt.

So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of self-will run riot, though he usually doesn't think so. Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness (p. 62, Alcoholics Anonymous).

INCIDENT (limited to one sentence):

1. HOW WAS I SELFISH (i.e., thinking only of myself, or not putting myself in someone else's position)?

2. HOW WAS I RESENTFUL (and what was the basis of this resentment)?

3. HOW WAS I AFRAID (How does this demonstrate a lack of faith, misplaced faith, or faith in a negative outcome)?

4. HOW WAS I DISHONEST (by commission or omission)?

5. HOW DID I DEMAND TO CONTROL ("Do it my way")?

6. HOW DID I DEMAND TO BE RIGHT ("I told you so!")?

7. HOW DID I DEMAND TO BE A VICTIM ("Poor me!")?

8. HOW WAS I DEFIANT ("Don't confuse me with the facts, I've made up my mind!")?

9. HOW WAS I IN DENIAL ("I don't care, I want it my way!")

10. WHO DID I HURT AND HOW DID I HURT THEM (i.e., who was affected as a result of my action or inaction)?

11. HOW CAN I REPAIR THE DAMAGE (i.e., how can I put right what I've put wrong)?

12. WHAT COULD I HAVE DONE BETTER (i.e., what actions could I have taken to improve the situation)?
 
 

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